A good start

I managed to chat with my cousin when she was waiting for her bridal march. Trying to make her relax and ease some of her tension. I asked her where she and her husband will be staying after the wedding. She told me they’ve already talked to a real estate agent and has come to an arrangement to rent out an apartment just nearby her parents house. I think that’s a good start.

Good morning, starshine!

The sun is up, it's a new day, a new week. I'll try to start this one right, with a smile :) I hope you guys will help me on this one and be infected of the happy virus i'm sending your way :D

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From aggies's blog, she shared a very interesting article on bringing courtship back to marriage. I have to read it right? sounds like there's a solution there i may not be aware of. After much thought, it just reminds me that we (hubby and i) should find new stuffs to learn and enjoy together. that there's no better time to do the work as in NOW. i say, i'll just try to kiss my husband more often (like later when we see each other afterwork) and start from there :D it's the little things that count, dba? :D

think happy thoughts

kelangan magbaon ng maraming happy thoughts sabi nga ng friend ko. whenever you're in doubt about love or marriage, if it can stand the test of time, happy thoughts lang katapat nyan.

Sinking Thoughts

a while ago, someone asked me, san and walk to today, sabi ko..

"bibili kami mamaya ng lababo, how romantic." *rolls eyes*

my friend beside me said,

"kami kaya (referring to partner), kelan kaya kami bibili ng lababo."

haay, wake up call. iba rin talaga when you have something you look forward to no.. like.. marriage.

Did I marry the right person?

Food for thought and in the words of Fr. Pedro Arrupe:
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During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment,

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with
someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be
in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to
this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of
love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".......
not just a feeling.

GOD Bless you and your family!

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got this from our group mail. exactly what i want to tell myself whenever in doubt :D