Friday, June 29, 2007

Did I marry the right person?

Food for thought and in the words of Fr. Pedro Arrupe:
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During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment,

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with
someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be
in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to
this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of
love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".......
not just a feeling.

GOD Bless you and your family!

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got this from our group mail. exactly what i want to tell myself whenever in doubt :D

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Things I have to get done and over with

a new blog skin perhaps, kahit header lang din siguro may mabago lang

consider mixing my personal blog with paid posts (more on this later)

album LOs for Dani's 1st birthday

*not much pala pero parang dami ko gustong gawin hehe.

Pahabol LOs

you are my joy
taken at Residence Zoo, Tagaytay

garry bday
this one came in a month late, shesh!

dani kitts gary sweet
this is actually a QP freebie.

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I'll put the credits tomorrow ;p

Monday, June 25, 2007

7 Random Facts MEME

i've been tagged by Abie.

RULES:Each player starts with 7 random facts about themselves on their Blog. People who are tagged need to blog 7 facts about themselves and post the rules as well. At the end of their blog list 7 people you are tagging. Let them know that they are tagged by leaving them a comment.

Here are some 7 Random facts about my life:

I'm a digiscrapper.

I'm a photo hobbyist.

I'm a mother.

I'm a wife.

I'm a certified Escapist.
Dream Job: Anything that has to do with eating food, music and arts appreciation and reading. I either want to be a librarian, a cafe owner like Amelie, or a SAHM.

I'm a philosopher wanna be :D

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I will try to expound on my seven random facts later or tomorrow. If you happen to read this and you haven't been tagged yet, leave a message and your IT!
EDIT: oops.. guess i'm breaking the rules here LOL, later then!

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

tidbits

lots to blog about, keywords will have to do for now..

on hubby:
birthday lunch
singapore trip

dani:
first zoo trip
milestones

minime:
new gadget
weight loss

home:
plan improvements
appliance purchase

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

who among you

loves me this much?

or is this your idea of a joke? :p

syempre late na para mangampanya hihi..

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i have pending cd cover designs to print for our employees born from months march to may. as i scan through the cd which we (the ewc or employee welfare committee) will give to them as birthday tokens, i see a wide variety of genre and made me realize that every individual is really unique.

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Here's something to claim my blog @ Technorati

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

LOMANET Grade Report

Student Name: Dela Cruz, Vanessa
Student Number: XXXXXXXXXX
Course: LOMA 280
Exam Date: 05/14/2007
Grade: P
Score: 92

Congratulations on passing this examination!

To view your complete course history, log into LOMANET and choose Course History from the navigator bar. While in LOMANET, please update your Student Information page. If you do not know your login ID or password, use the Password Request feature on the login page to have it e-mailed to you.

For assistance with or questions about this report, please contact the LOMANET Help Desk at +1 (770) 984-3782 or by e-mail at education@loma.org. Please do not reply directly to this e-mail

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yey, i passed! :D i was praying for at least a pasang-awa score so imagine my surprise upon reading my mail :D it will cost me P3.5k to retake the said exam pero naka-allocate yan sa coming bonus kasi nga baka bumagsak ako. i was stuck at chapter 6 since last year tapos three days before my exam date dun lang ako nakapagbasa ulit ng book but i made sure that i finished the exam prep test na napulot ko and understood the concept of the questions. lucky me, about 75 percent of the questions are similar to the exam prep test i have with me. it's not exactly kodigo ha, mind you, baka yun ang iniisip nyo, hmp! :p oh well, one down, one more to go this November, yaiks!

Friday, June 08, 2007

Present

Yourself: 10lbs lighter, need to visit a dentist.
Your Partner: missing soon. training in SG. very unpredictable.
Your Hair: minus the waves but still not so straight but i like it just the same
Your Mother: more appreciated
Your Father: slightly sick, too hard headed for his own good, tsk.
Your Favorite Item: likewise, computer :)
Your Dream Last Night: blank
Your Favorite Drink: thai iced tea
Your Dream Car: red honda hunchback(?)
Dream Home: great view and mixed country & shabby chick
The Room You Are In: office
Your Fear: being forgotten
Where You Want to be in Ten Years: SAHM in dasma
Who You Hung Out With Last Night: just the same, my family
You’re Not: working yet *lol*
One of Your Wish List Items: more free time
The Last Thing You Did: Eat breakfast
You Are Wearing: blue collared printed sleeveless on top of light khaki pants and bronze sandals
Your Favorite Weather: windy
Your Favorite Book: Five people you meet in Heaven
Last Thing You Ate: Tosilog :)
Your Life: getting there
Your Mood: T.G.I.F parang sabado na
Your Best Friend: Julie & Olgs
What Are You Thinking About Right Now: What could be the result of my LOMA exam. How am I supposed to do LO out of Dani's 1st Bday Pics. How to start my birthday kwento and ratings. Review budget and re-execute.
Your Car: White Toyota XE 2000 Plate No. XSE940
What Are You Doing At The Moment: writing a blog entry, starting the bday kwento, scanning feeds, working
Relationship Status: Still double :D

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read from Aggie's blog :D

1st Birthday Supplier Ratings

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THEME: Carebears Festival of Fun
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Initially, i was opting for Carnival hence the "Festival of Fun" but as I was talking to Apple about my plans I keep on mentioning Tenderheart's name. Later on I gave up on the carnival idea kasi lack of manpower and funds to execute planned booths. I guess ang mas nakarelate sa theme ay ang mga Mothers and you can see some kids have question mark on their faces as to who the carebears are hehe

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VENUE: Artist Pavillion, Makati Park & Garden
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Cost: 7K rental fee from 1PM to 6PM
+ no corkage fee
+ no additional cost for electicity
+ aircon, great for 200pax guest
+ great location for guests coming from south and north (meet halfway kumbaga)
* no sound system
* reservation is done sa makati city hall pa and bring confirmation sheet to venue for actual scheduling
* short setup time kung may kasabay na event before your slot

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FOOD: Blue Petals Catering & Jollibee
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Blue Petals (Adults)
Contract Details
Cost: P180/pax for 130 pax
+ Good feedback from N@W
+ Reasonably priced
+ no charge for different colors for table top
+ waiters are courteous and attentive
* ok lang customer service, jonalyn was easy to talk to. i just have to call like 3 times to follow up email of floor plan and twice for for the revised final contract. but they gave us snacks when they were preparing our contract (brownies and coke) to dani's delight hehe.
* didn't get to taste the food pero acceptable naman. some say masarap, most say ok naman. we didnt experience shortage in food since around 100+ pax lang dumating so others were able to get second helping pa and we get to take home what's left. Pinamigay na lang namin sa relatives nung uwian na. up to now and hindi ko lang malaman eh kung kanino napunta ang ulo ng lechon hihi.

Jollibee (Kids)
Cost: P88 for Chicken and Spaghetti Meal w/ Softdrinks
+ Reliable delivery, no problem encountered
* their crew came in as scheduled 1:30pm kaso he had to wait pa kasi hindi ko makabayad agad, yung wallet ko kasi nasa car eh bumili pala ng ice si garry, medyo nakakahiya lang on my part hihi

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CAKE: Cake Avenue
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10" round chocolate cake with 3D customized cake topper
Cost: P1870 for the cake and P10 for the candle
+ good customer service, fast reply via email
+ caramel filling not to sweet :D cake itself was better than goldilocks or red ribbon :)
* for pickup nga lang but accessible location naman

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Photographer: Jeff Lopez
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Cost: P4000 for Labor only
+ prompt reply to inquiry
+ arrived early
+ patient to kids (and guests)
+ awesome captures, more so with candid pics
+ free enhanced ready to print 5Rs
* you'll have to wait for a couple of days though for the cd. no biggie for me since i have my photos naman and i was hoping he will tweak some :)
* recieved about 600 files, i told jeff i wanted more but then i was just kidding kasi nga he'll have to have three of him to produce the number of photos i want hihi but the ones he got are quality shots and covered almost everything naman. pero duda ako kay jeff, kasi dami pics ni wizzo hmm.. may HD kaya sya dun.. jowk!

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PARTY ORGANIZER: Yan-Ple's Balloons & Party Needs
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FOOD CARTS: c/o Yan-Ple
Cost: Hotdogs - P1700 and Sorbetero - P1800 (ube, cheese & rockyroad)
+ more affordable than other party supplier
+ themed at no extra cost
* just provided a pack of marshmallows for the hotdogs para mas complete :D

HOST: Wizzo c/o Yan-Ple
+ kids and adults alike were impressed by his show
+ great costume, realistic props and animals seemed quite healthy hehe

Other items:
3x2 Standee
Decors (Personalized Balloon, Centerpiece, Ceiling, Pillars, Balloon Burst)
Cupcakes, Cookies and Lollies
Giant Playhouse w/ slide, Merry-Go-Round and Basketball Set

+ helped me finalize my theme and items, provides suggestions
+ prompt reply on q's
+ works within budget, sometimes may bonus pa :)
+ great editing and vibrant color printing for the standee

*when i was planning dani's birthday, nasa isip ko na talaga to get apple's services. minsan nagca-canvass pa rin ako sa ibang party suppliers pero hindi ko na masyado pinagtutuunan ng pansin. we'd communicate via text or email nage-gets naman na nya ung gusto ko by sending out pics or links or vice versa.
*couple of days after i still recieve feedback either from conversation or text that the party was "engrande" parang debut. not the kind of feedback i was hoping for kasi i was aiming sana for "fun". i still take it in though kasi some did say it was indeed fun :D i guess the overall effect of apple's team output impressed most of my guest resulting such comments.

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Map & Invites: DIY - National Bookstore Glorietta
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StarPaper Pearl Board Paper - about P33 for 10pcs
Pastelle 3.5x5 envelopes - about P14 for 5pcs
Epson Printer 990(?) - P4999 at Electroworld, SM Dasma

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Guestbook: Picturebooks
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Cost: P789 for Medium size Hard bound Cover
+ ready for pickup as indicated in the job order
+ quality binding
* color hue & saturation will vary but they do have disclaimer for this but still good printing.
* other page layouts was cropped/resized even after following the specified size, binding allowance. it was my first time to avail of their services so will have to adjust next time based on the current album on hand :)

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Projector: Arnold Projector
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Cost: P1500 w/ white screen (tripod) for 5hrs
+ relatively cheap
+ prompt reply
+ arrived early for setup
* i just googled "projector rent makati" and got three possible suppliers, all of which are of the same price. The first one is no longer available on my date. After texting arnold, he replied immediately and when he asked for directions i just emailed him the map and pray he'll show up :) no deposit was required so i just prepared myself for the worst and accepted the possiblity na masayang ang AVP.

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Dani's Gown & Shoes:
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Gown (SM Nova) - P600
Silver shoes (Landmark) - P250
Casual white dress - (gift)
White shoes (Rustans) - P300+
*for the shoes, i was battling whether to get a bigger size or ung tamang fit lang kasi baka sumakit paa ni dani or baka naman matanggal kung maluwang. in the end ung one size bigger ang binili ko kasi sakto lang din pag may socks na.
*i was planning to have dani's gown custom tailored tapos sasabay na din ako ng pang dress ko para terno kami. yung pinakamalapit saming patahian nagquote ng P1K for her gown and P1.5K nman for mine (no beads ha). Unsure ako kung magkaparehas kami ng wavelength nung "designer" so nagtyaga kami maghanap ng RTW.

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Other DIY Projects
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AVP using ProShow
*tatlong magkakasunod na gabi puyat ako sa AVP. Like what aggie mentioned when she was preparing to do sana for her daughter, I kept staring at her photos and getting sentimental kaya bagal ng progress.

Lootbags and Goodies c/o Divisoria
*as blogged here

Tarp Design - Printing cost: P1200 for 8ftx6ft
*note to self: time and again sabi nga iproofread ng 10x tapos ipa-proofread sa iba kasi chances are may mali. basahin mo cge nga.. anong mali?

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Leave a message if you want a copy of our budget sheet. Just to give you an idea of transparent expenses .. about P85K :) [EDIT: recomputed expenses and arrived at P79K+ now where's the 6K gone?!]

was it all worth it, the stress and everything.. to be with all of our guests who came and celebrated with us our daughter's first birthday, memories are priceless! sana nga lang dani can appreciate this event more when she's older na.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Monday, June 04, 2007

after the balloons had popped and the cake was eaten

i am relieved, party planning is now over. i'm just glad that my girl turned pretty smart and healthy for a 12month toddler :D

yikes.. let me just repeat that..

toddler..

such small word but i'm preparing myself for another year of roller-coaster ride :D

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birthday kwento and pics to follow, i'm so trying hard to work since last month i focused on my preps so much that i have to make it up for the next two weeks.

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