A Heart to heart talk

That's what I need to do with Dani's yaya tomorrow. While my SIL finally let go of her's, I on the other hand just informed me that she's planning to go home soon. Originally she'd like to leave this Sunday. I reasoned with her, in a pleading manner, to let us find a replacement first. After Dani's semestral break and we still haven't found one, then she's free to go.

UPDATE: I was even tempted to offer auto insurance (even if she doesn't have a car! LOL) but she's firm with her decision and left us just the same.

And so begins my quest for another helper. I borrowed my mom's in the meantime. Took a few days leave to orient her with her tasks. Dani was taking it all in stride and just said, "I have a new ate."

Kuto

yup, si yaya ay may kuto. si dani ay may kuto.. ako ngayon ay may kuto. nakakahiya no? pero ganun talaga, pag nahawaan ka, no choice kundi magsuyod at gumamit ng anti-headlice shampoo.

nalaman ko to kahapon, pasaring na sinabi ng kumare ko na sinabi ng katulong nila na kinukutuhan nya daw si yaya. tama namang nangamot ng ulo ang anak ko at dali-daling tinignan ng isa pa naming kapitbahay at nakasipat ng isang patay na lisa. magdamag kong inisip kung ano ba ang dapat kong gawin dahil nga sa aking non-confrontational at uber-sensitive nature, inabot ako hanggang kaninang hapon para lapitan sya tungkol dito.

pano ba naman nakakita na ko ng mahigit na sampung buhay na lisa galing sa anak ko nung sinusuklayan ko sya pagkatapos maligo.

eto na nga:

K: ate G, eh kasi, may nakita kaming lisa kay dani kahapon, baka gusto mong magpagupit ng buhok, pasama ka nalang kay ate L
ate G: *bulong-bulong*
ate L: ayaw nya daw po magpagupit
K: hmm.. eh kasi ang haba na ng buhok mo eh para naman lumitaw yang mukha mo at maginhawaan ka ng onti. makakatipid ka pa sa shampoo.
*abot ang pera kay ate L*
K: *pabulong* kaw na lang kumausap, paki samahan na lang sya sa GMA siguro.
K: *sa lahat* chaka pakibili na rin ng gamot (sa kuto) kasi parang nangangati na rin ako.

so iniwan ko muna sila at pumasyal sa kumare kong kapitbahay. maya lang eh bumalik na si ate L at nagbihis, nagpapasama daw si ate G.

haay salamat.

pagdating nya dito sa bahay nakita kong mejo mahaba pa rin ang kanyang buhok pero nakatali naman. bago ako magkulong sa kwarto, pinuntahan ko muna sya at kinausap. sabi ko wag syang magagalit sakin at pinilit ko syang magpagupit kasi mahirap na pag si dani ang nagkakuto (which meron na nga) at kung may problema man sya sa kung anuman, sabihin nya lang samin para makatulong kasi syempre iniisip din naman namin sya. ayun, tumango naman.

kanina, imbes na magpakasasa ako sa internet habang nagpapaantok eh sinamantala ko ang himbing na pagkakatulog ng aking anak at binusisi ang kanyang ulo. madami-dami na rin akong naalis na lisa at nakakuha na rin ako ng dalawang inahen. wala pa naman akong nakikitang kuyumad na mahirap hulihin dahil sobrang bilis neto.

tamang duda, ako naman ang nagsuyod at nakakuha ako ng isang inahen. hindi pa naman kumakati ulit ang anit ko at puro patay na lisa ang nasipat ko pero bukas magsusuyod ulit ako't gagamit din ng anti-headlice shampoo.

grabe na ito, minsan lang ako makapagblog, nakakadiri pa ang topic ko. oh well, ni-share ko lang. just in case you'll be in the same predicament in the future ;)

A proposal

So I've read from abie's blog that Grissom and Sarah are engaged! :D I'm currently listening to Across the Universe OST and like my sister, I love Jim Sturgess more specifically his voice singing Beatles. I haven't blogged about the movie, but i've been wanting to see it since I've read about it from hmm. toni's blog it think :D Buti na lang may deebeedee sina mami :D I've also seen The Other Boleyn Girl, I tried focusing on his face and tried not to laugh seeing him in his costume :D Eek talaga kasi incest pero sayang hindi natuloy love scene nila ni Natalie hihi

Coding kami today, pero late na kami nakaalis, pano naman Dani was clingy this morning. Ayaw akong paalisin, akala siguro wala akong pasok kasi I'm not in uniform today. Later we're planning to buy a small pool for her. Enjoy talaga sya sa water eh. Just passing time while waiting for things to kick off here at work. It's friday anyways and most have this can't wait for weekend vibes with them including me.

Still no yaya. Our neighbor, two houses from our left, mentioned to my mom she'd love to work for us. She'll take care of Dani while we're away and then go home when we're back from office already. I'm not sure if it will work out for both of us since she also has two children to look out for. She reasons her husband is just at home anyway and can look out for them himself. Still, how will she eat? Will she eat at home or will she eat with her family?

Esep. Esep.

Yaya Concerns

I'm writing this because 1) she's asleep already and 2) just so i wont forget about these concerns.

randomly:

natutuwa ako kasi she adores dani and i let her hug and kiss my baby. i've read some mommies doesn't allow their yayas to do so. anyway, she even makes harot with her which is a good thing kasi maharot talaga anak ko. kaso sometimes i worry kasi parang mabigat kamay nya, baka pag kinikiliti nya si dani masyadong madiin or masyado na yung rough-housing nila. sometimes kasi she doesn't stop immediatey pag sinabi na ni dani na ayaw na nya.

nung nasa nova kami, she'll sometimes update me and make kwento about dani and gerah na kesyo nagaaway gnun. like one time nakakandong si dani kay mil and dani doesn't want gerah to make lambing to mil at the same time. but of course gerah being her naughty self (and i also understand she also wants mil attention) she insisted to share mil's lap. so according to yaya, paglumalapit si gerah, sinasabunutan daw ni dani si gerah. now my concern is somehow yaya finds the whole thing funny. that the way she told me the whole scenario as if there's a tinge of pride in her that dani now actually knows how to fight back. i love my child and as much as i dont want her to be an underdog, i dont want to tolerate her hurting someone else either. you guys might think this is petty stuff but i'll just tuck this in my mind for future reference just in case things get worse.

another thing on gerah and dani. i appreciate yaya siding on dani, whenever there's an inggitan or fight between the two (you know nman kids, mine's better than your's or don't touch my stuff but i want your stuff kind of fight, kids being kids). however sometimes parang hmm.. she's flaming the fire. alam mo yung para din syang batang kumakampi parang pinapatulan nya si gerah (which is so mataray din kasi). kasi if it was me, i'll handle it differently eh. pagbabatiin ko sila, although my heart goes out to my child and even if i do want her to have the upperhand, i dont want her to grow a brat and selfish. note to self, i'll ask sil's or mil's observation on this next time.

the other night, gerah excitedly grabbed my hand telling me she's learned her ABC's through her new toy. Which turned out pala are numbers hehe and the toy is actually one of the gifts dani received from a friend. I assumed hubby gave it to gerah so I didn't make a big deal out of it anymore kahit na I was actually excited to use the said toy to teach dani numbers in the future. I said to myself there will always be other toys. Later I found out that yaya was actually the one who gave it to her. Yaya casually told me so herself, "binigay ko kasi yun kay gerah". Nagulat talaga ko and I don't really know what so but "ah ok." Whatever possess her to be so generous as to give something she doesn't own in the first place, I do not know.

i'm starting to get paranoid of her. maybe i'm not taking her for granted too much that maybe she knows too much about us. it's all good if only she keeps it to herself. diba nga i try to always just look at a persons good points so i dont think she'll make chismis about us. ok, i wont try to be specific as you guys will then know more than you should about us hehe so let me just say that with my short talks with sil (who chats with yaya), yaya tells her a thing or two which i think is not proper. why would they even talk about it is beyond me, tsk. now i don't want to think anymore as to why sil shares with me what yaya shares with her. ahh, it's just too much to think. why doesn't people just mind their own business no? and just ask directly if they want to know or express something.

so now i'm thinking it's kinda like telling myself to ask yaya what other stuffs has she been telling everybody else para i can stop speculating that she's making chismis about us :p pero that's a different thing naman as if matanong ko yun diba? :p

anyways, i feel bad thinking all these concerns kasi mabait naman sya. pero pano kung hindi naman pala sya mabait talaga haha. i haven't discussed this with hubby yet. i just want to blind myself and really believe that i've scored a perfect yaya :p tolerable pa naman ang concerns. better to have one than have none, diba? caution and monitoring lang talaga kelangan haay.

Ayan may title na

can anyone help me? can't seem to edit my post's title :(

anyways, last week was pretty tough on us since we found out that dani's yaya has been leaving her to our neighbor's care for two hours more than twice already. not only that, she even took dani with her to church once, lets say that's about an hour-service, commute one jeepney and tricycle away from our house. not to mention the weather factor, it already started drizzling and tons of factors my head aches everytime i worry about it. no matter how patient she is with dani or how clean she does our laundry and how palatable her cooking is, it's just not going to work with her schedule. her religion requires her to attend a weekday service of which are scheduled during working hours, so how's that possible for us? i cannot blog it all here since i'm pressed for time.

well, to end our worries, we decided to let her go and thank god already got a replacement. however, not sure if the new yaya will be better and if dani can handle the transition well, including us. *sigh*